No one likes to think about death, let alone plan for it. In many families, discussing your own mortality is an extremely uncomfortable topic. But it is a topic that should be discussed and planned for well in advance of your death.
More and more people are preparing their own funeral ceremonies in advance. This allows them to make personal choices about their ceremony while saving their families the stress and difficult decisions that come from not knowing what their loved one would have wanted – especially at a highly emotional time for them when they will not be thinking clearly.
You may be of the sentiment that ‘what happens after my death doesn’t matter’, or that ‘I won’t care, I’ll be dead’. Perhaps it is the opposite, and you have a precise vision for what should take place, where and how. Either way what is important is to write it down – so those who are left behind know what your wishes are.
An Advance Funeral Wish Plan is a document we draft and create together which specifies your choices, preferences and decisions about what you would like to take place at your own funeral. It will reassure your family that you have thought about things carefully and give them confidence that they are acting in accordance with your wishes. It provides ‘peace of mind’ knowing that your ‘affairs are in order’. Your family, and especially if you have children, will appreciate your concern for their well-being.
It is a caring way of providing your loved ones with all the relevant information in one place. The knowledge that you are receiving the care before, during and after the funeral that you wanted will be a great comfort to them during a naturally difficult time.
If you have family members and friends who have different ideas about what you would have wanted, who are sure they know what’s best, who think you did express a preference, it’s going to be challenging making arrangements for your funeral, to agree and all be at peace with the outcome.
Families or individuals arranging a funeral for someone who has not written an Advance Funeral Wish Plan may be easily steered into unimaginative, formulaic funerals that are straightforward for the funeral directors to organise. They may be told that they can have whatever they like, but are not told what that may include beyond their own limited options. It can be helpful and illuminating to have more than just the Funeral Director’s input to help you make decisions.
For Life’s Journey and Independent Celebrant Tuirenn Hurstfield will make sure that your Advance Funeral Wish Plan is put together to ensure your decisions are enacted at the time of your funeral.
We will work creatively together with you to get your ceremony just right and fully reflective of your wishes, your life, and the special memories and relationships you would like to be honoured.
So let’s get your Advance Funeral Wish Plan in order now.
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